“A remarkable life is not the by-product of chasing success. It comes from knowing who you truly are, and why you do what you do. When you learn the answers and operate from a genuine understanding of yourself, your journey through this life will seem effortless.”
When I ask most people how to create an ideal life, they start with “Well, if I had a magic wand or a genie in a bottle, I would ask for a big house on the beach, a red Ferrari, lots of money, and all of the time in the world to spend it.” I then ask, well, why do you not have those things? They usually reply with something like, “Come on, Steve, no one really has that kind of life, we all have to work hard, struggle, and do our best just to have what we have.” Or, they may point to their parents, the government, their limited education, their marital status, or ethnicity as the reason why they can or cannot achieve certain things in life. Funny, I used to think in much the same way, that is, until Santa Claus gave me a magic lamp with in which was a blue Genie who granted me all of my desires. Since then, my life has been one joyful, happy fairy tale! If only this were true!
The truth is, I arrived in the U.S. at the age of 7, and was raised on the South side of Chicago, in a neighborhood where even Leroy Brown was certain to be home before dark. I was dazed and confused as a kid, with little understanding about life or what my purposes was. I barely made it out of high school and I’m sure the only reason I was permitted to graduate was to spare my teachers the agony of having me back in their classrooms the following year.
By the age of 17, I had practiced and attempted suicide by placing a plastic laundry bag over my head and holding it tightly around my neck to see how long it would take for me to asphyxiate. It was the only thing I could think to do to escape the parental physical and mental abuse which In had endured since the age of 4, that I can remember. And then…my high school girlfriend gave me a book; The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale. I read some of it, and understood none of it, except for these 7 words:
“Change Your Thoughts and Change Your World.”
Even so, I was not sure how to change my thoughts or if it was even possible, but I knew that I could change my world, because I had run away from home before. So I decided to do it again, this time, I ran away to the gentle, caring arms, of a United States Marine Drill Instructor. To say that those next 13 weeks impacted my life is an understatement. I credit those 13 weeks in Marine Basic Training for saving my life and for giving me the identity to succeed in a wide variety of careers to include as a U.S. Marine NCO, Law Enforcement Officer, Board Certified Civil Trial Lawyer, Singer-Songwriter and Recording Artist, commercial Photographer, Entrepreneur, award winning Author, and International Speaker among others, Oh, sure, I have faced a number of challenges to include being fired from jobs, divorce, financial bankruptcy, watching my Internet start-up company go down in flames, and having to short-sell my residential houses. However, these experiences is why I now appear before you as someone who has developed a deep understanding and certain mastery over this process that we call life.
Having studied some of the most successful people in history, and some who still walk this planet, I have learned that the primary reason we cannot have the life we want, is a lack of education. Yes, I know that you’ve invested years to educate yourself in math, science, history, politics, business, law, medicine, information technology, and macro-economics. I know that this education has equipped you to serve as a high level executive of a multi-national company, that you employ armies of people, and that your company is poised to solve the world’s biggest problems. However, the education I am referring to is (sadly), not the type of education we get from an academic institution. Indeed, the most vital and important subject, that which affects every area of our lives and which controls who you are, what you do, and why you do it is not a subject that is taught in any schools. That subject is YOU!
I know this because, just like you, I was programmed in a system which taught me how to read, write, and multiply. A system which taught me to pay attention, keep my mouth shut, and to do as I am told. A system which did not teach me how to think for myself, how to make effective decisions, or why I behaved in a certain way. I followed the traditional recipe for success, I became a high priced lawyer, and after years of making money and having it all…I was absolutely miserable. I could walk into any court room and persuade judges and juries, I could entertain people for hours with my music, I could buy whatever I wanted with my money. However, what I could not explain is:
- Why do I feel like an impostor
- Why do I feel so lonely
- Why am I so driven to succeed at all costs
Upon finding myself in a pit of despair, broken, alone, and with more questions than answers, I came to realize that I had never asked myself the most important question of all…Who Am I?
As I searched for the answer to this question, I came across many people who had also crashed and burned. People who seemingly had it all: great careers, beautiful spouses and families, and with promising futures. And I learned that while we were all highly educated and accomplished, we all lacked the most vital degree of all which is a Masters Degree in ourselves.
So, I decided I was going to solve this problem for others and I have come up with 3 essential pillars to living an ideal life — or what I refer to as Living Remarkably. Those pillars are Personal Mastery (how you think, decide, and act), Communications Mastery (how you look, what to say, and how to say it), and Relationship Mastery (how you relate to yourself, your loved ones, and the world around you). I am convinced that if we can master, or at least develop proficiency in these 3 areas, we can finally live peacefully, authentically, and remarkably.
“A remarkable life is not the by-product of chasing success. It comes from knowing who you truly are, and why you do what you do. When you learn these answers and operate from a genuine understanding of yourself, your journey through this life will seem effortless.”
Your time has now come for action.
If you are ready to end the frustration of not being who you really are, if you are ready to let go of the fear that you are not enough, and if you are ready to stop feeling guilty about wanting a bigger more meaningful life, call me and let’s break some rules.
Steve Gallegos is available for international speaking and training assignments for multi-cultural corporations, as well as for business and student associations. Book Steve today and give your audience the tools to transform their careers, business, and personal lives.